Basic Rules of Success

If you want to be successful, you have to start learning how to like people. Success depends on the support given by people you may or may not know. What stand between you and your dream is the support of people. I will use this example since I have worked in a real estate industry, if not for the sales person of the company, it will not be able to sell all its units. And if not for the people, not a single sales person can sell a unit either.

These are the ten powerful “like people” rules of President Lyndon Johnson before he became the U.S. president

1.  Learn to remember names, inefficiency at this point may indicate that your interest is not sufficiently outgoing
2. Be a comfortable person so there is no strain in being with you. Be an old-shoe kind of individual.
3. Acquire the quality of relaxed easy-going so that things do not ruffle you.
4. Don’t be egotistical. Guard against the impression that you know it all.
5. Cultivate the quality of being interesting so people will get something of value from their association with you.
6.  Study to get the ‘scratchy’ element out of your personality, even those of which you may be unconscious.
7. Sincerely attempt to heal, on an honest basis, every misunderstanding you may had or now have. Drain off your grievances.
8. Practice liking people until you learn to do so genuinely.
9. Never miss an opportunity to say a word of congratulation upon anyone’s achievement, or express sympathy in sorrow or disappointment.
10.  Give spiritual strength to people, and they will give genuine affection to you.

A person usually thinks that it should be people approaching him and not the other way around but that is when there’s nothing left in him but pride. A leader shouldn’t think that he is superior over other people. Leaders always take the initiative in building friendship. I have read that “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”  – Dale Carnegie

Ways to win friends by taking the initiative:

• Introduce yourself to others at every possible opportunity. – at parties, meetings, at work, everywhere and the most common nowadays is thru the social networking sites.
• Make sure that the other person gets your name and remembers you.
• Don’t forget the person’s name and make sure you spell it correctly.
• Make sure you get the person’s contact number or email to stay in touch.
• Drop a personal note, make a phone call or leave a message in the Facebook page of the new friends you feel you want to know better.
• Say pleasant things to strangers. It warms you up and gets you ready for the task ahead.

Take note!

• Avoid judging because nobody is perfect. People are individually unique and you have to respect individual differences.
•  Don’t be a reformer. You have a right to your own opinion, but sometimes it’s better to keep it to yourself.

I have recently attended a seminar and I have to agree with the speaker that the most important key in persuasion is communication. Well, the person who does the most talking and the person who is the most successful are rarely the same person. Why? Because when we talk, we win friends, learn about them and learn from them. You also have to practice courtesy at all times because it makes other people feel better and can make you feel better too. Read about Failure Means Success.

How far are you willing to go?

Humans are far different from animals, plants and other things in this world. God is too wise that he made people different from each other too. What would happen in a world filled with people just exactly like you? Isn't that going to be similar from all the clone gadgets we have here now? Luckily, people are made unique, isn't that great?

Can a person change? I think everyone is capable of that, you just have to train yourself really hard. People always say, "if you love me, you have to accept me for who I am". So, does it mean people don't need to change? What if you couldn't do something good for others and you couldn't do something good for yourself? Why do we always have this "New year's resolution"? Why do we always ask forgiveness for something we did and ask for another chance? Nobody in this world is perfect and so, everybody is a subject to change.

Every person has their own strengths and weaknesses. It may be different from the others and that's the essence of socialization. Do you believe that no man is an island? Interaction is the key in reaching out people like you. Use your strength to help others and receive help from others in terms of your weaknesses. Why not just work hand in hand instead of criticizing one's weaknesses?

As you notice, I have left so many questions for this and that is for you to answer yourself. To change is to realized the need of change itself in your life. May it be for your family, friends, relatives, strangers or simply for yourself. How far are you willing to go?

Be yourself, be original ♥

What is originality? 

-noun

-ability to think or express oneself in an independent and individual manner; creative ability.

-freshness or novelty, as of an idea, method, or performance.

[http://dictionary.reference.com/]

What do you think about people who have no originality? Some people try really hard to copy someone. Having originality is very important for some people but for others, they say that it's a compliment when people try to copy or imitate you just like with the celebrities when their fans try to imitate their styles. How about for ordinary people who value their identity? They feel so bad that it seems somebody is trying to steal their identity and uniqueness. 

How important is originality? Basically, it means being able to show the world who you really are. You show people what is inside you, your ideas, your personality, your skills and etc. In short, you let people explore your own little world. Copying is not as bad as what people think but being yourself feels right and makes you feel good. It just conveys that you have something interesting and unique to show the world.

Why do people try to be copy-cats? According to Erik Erikson's Psychological Theory which talks about the psychological crisis of human development, we have to surpass different stages to be fully matured. Take note of the fifth stage, Fidelity: Identity vs. Role Confusion (Adolescents, 14-24 years). People covered from this stage are concerned with how they appear to others. And since people in this stage are bound to develop their identity but closely influenced by people around them like friends and groups they belong to. They try to develop their identity together by doing things together. How about people who are not under this stage? They were not able to surpass this stage and they're stuck at it.

Be yourself, be original, be unique because the people around you want to know the real you, your ideas and what it feels like being in your inner world. People are not interested in seeing you through the glasses of somebody else. It's not that I hate people without originality but I just find these people boring and shallow.

Life is like a game

Life is like a game and a game will always be a game, we should take it seriously. I mean, we don’t have to be too emotional for what is happening around us because everything happens for a reason.  Yes, we’re humans and we’re born with emotion so we could still be emotional but not too emotional. If we let our emotion control us, we will just mess up everything. The people we meet in the long run  have their own feelings so, nobody can tell what exactly they’re thinking in that very moment. Will they understand you or will they judge you? Will they stay calm or will they explode like a bomb in front of you. A chance to meet true people is 50-50 and a chance to meet all kinds of people is 100%. You learn from them and they learn from you. It’s just a matter of how they will try to perceive everything from you. You do this, you do that.. some people will just judge you for that simple mistake you did, some people will judge you for what you did and not for who you are. But who are we? They say, action speaks louder than words. Do our actions speak in behalf of our identity? In college, our professors told  us that we should assess before we implement, we have to think before we act. It takes years to really practice that simple reminder especially when the lives of people are in your hands. My dad keeps on saying on the pulpit, that the tongue is too sharp that it could destroy a life.

What should we do if life is nothing but a complicated game? What I’ve learned when I was young was that being a christian is not an easy task. As my Sunday school teacher taught me that one of the essence of being a Christian is “ChristIAN” or  “I am nothing without Christ” Unless you found the true meaning of life, that would be the time you’d learn how to take life seriously.

It’s either you carry the world as a burden or let the world carry you as a slave.

Good Girl Gone Bad

“It’s sad when people you know become people you knew, when you can walk right past someone like they were never a big part of your life, how you used to be able to talk for hours and how now you can barely even look at them. it’s sad how times change.”

life is a matter of taking risk and making decisions. choice is always laid down quite simple, it’s just a matter of how we view things or complicate it.

Life is like a game, it takes a lot of practice to learn the right moves. you don’t need to be the best at first but be better as the process goes. Life doesn’t require a good player to survive but a good heart and an open mind.

Do things really happens for a reason? All my life I’ve learned to trust God for everything, for His reason, for His plan, and for His purpose.

Some people change, some people leave, some people don’t just understand how they are being valued and how it hurts someone who cared so much. but in spite of all these… we’re given free will, to choose right and decide not for the sake of oneself but for the sake of others as well. Grown ups, matured ones doesn’t only mean that you can decide for yourself, prove to people that you can handle things your own, one thing matters… it is said if you’ve learned to know the very reason of you existence.

Why do we choose to compromise? The world could never give us the true happiness we’re asking for. this world won’t even matter if you live life for yourself. [i may be talking nonsense here but some people know what I’m saying. a family. not blood related but in heart and mind.]

You’re not just a friend to me..
We care, we love, because we’re one.

Ang Aking Buwan

tila malungkot ang langit sa paglisan ng buwan
habang bitbit nito ang mga tala patungo sa kung saan
malamig ang gabi kung ito’y iyong pagmamasdan
habang dahan-dahang naglalakad sa tahimik na daan

tila tahimik ang langit sa paglisan ng buwan
ito marahil ay sadyang naguguluhan
sa kung anu mang maaaring dahilan
kung bakit siya pansamantalang kailangang iwanan

tila iiyak ang langit sa paglisan ng buwan
kalungkutan ay hindi na dapat pang pagtakpan
hinahanap-hanap ang pinangakong katapatan
kakulangan ay ang tanging nararamdaman

Closed book

one thing i've realized is how essential life is. so, above all, love God and the rest follows. for when you love God you'd love everything He created around you and especially the life He gave you.
how can we express our love for Christ? some people might ask. simply by preserving one's health for it shows how we value our life, love people around us for the greatest commandment of Christ is to love one another, and appreciate every creature we see and lastly is to serve Him wholeheartedly.
as i reflect this day with respect to a loved one who passed away. i've seen how God takes life in just a snap, for the life we live is not ours to keep. in all these that had happened, a purpose is left undivided for us to learn and appreciate life much of what we live here on earth. though we are left heart broken, i pray that God would carry the soul of our beloved one in His arms and allow time to heal all wounded hearts.
for my friends who rendered time through prayers, i sincerely thank you. in deed, your prayers are not wasted for all things happens for a reason.

P.S. i love you

i may not know the reason why i love you
though you had laid down every clue
but you will always be my reason
why i'm learning to love this season
because every day i spend with you
for me, it's like a dream come true
seconds may be ticking fast
minutes may just easily pass
hours may not even last
and days will surely have its forecast
but it won't matter at all
even if time begins to be out of my control
i'd still be here, just here
though you may seem to view things unclear
let me just hold you and tell you
that if i'd be given another chance to choose
i would definitely, without doubt pick you
because it's my simplest way of expressing...
how much i love and value you.

Connection

"Manatili" by AJ Mendoza
pag asa'y unti unting kinakapos
paghihirap kailan matatapos?
kailan kaya matutupad ang aking hiling?
naubos na ang mga bituwin
hindi na ko luluhod
kailangan ang puso mo ang kusang bumalik
o babalik pa ba?
namamanhid sa sakit ng iyong.. hindi

"Stay" by Jael Ong
the hope is gone
when will you put this to an end?
how far will i be waiting
for a star to fall this evening
your heart is what i long for
i need the key for that close door

"Asa ka pa!" by KC Factor
bakit pa kailangan umasa?
kung ikaw ay 'di na darating pa!
hindi na kailangan ipilit ang sarili
kung sa simula pa lang ang sagot ay hindi

"Here without you" by Ivy Ramos
why should i have to wait?
to someone like you
no need to push myself to you
'coz i know we're not

"Maghihintay" by Joana Ronsairo
hindi ko iniisip ang haba o tagal
ang hirap at inip sayo aking mahal
kahit ilang beses na ako'y iyong saktan
dito sayo'y mananatiling naghihintay

"Felton" by AJ Mendoza
dapat di sinabi sayo
ang tunay na damdamin ko
mali ang aking inakala
bawat tingin, bawat panalangin
sana babae pagtingin sa salamin
ikaw ang true love ko..
kahit parehas tayong macho.. :)

"Charles" by Jael Ong
if i told you i like you
will you like me too?
if i told you i love you
will you love me the same way i do?
though i know we can never be
as good as time allows us to see
even if a girl like me is in love
to a boy with a special girl inside you

"Manrique" by AJ Mendoza
nakita kita, nag iisa
walang kasama
kaso my problema
lalake ako
at lalake ka.

Again

how can you be so wrong

when you already know what’s right

how can you be so blind

now that you had your eyesight

how can you feel so alone

at least now that you have someone

how can it be so hard

when things are laid simple and easy

think again, remember when

you used to be right here

not there, back to where you’re from

come on, think again and walk back home

Sacrifice

how are you today?

i hope that you’re okay

that is what I pray

do you see me?
like i see you in my dreams

dreams each passing night

can you feel it now?

the longing i’ve been dealing

as you go on your way

i wanted to scream

as loud as you can hear

from where you are

days are not getting better

nights are surely colder

without you

literally, without you

Lost in reality

a girl behind the bars
sitting back, looking from afar
a moment of silence
in rembering her friends
missing them, it  kills her inside
it's a feeling no one can easily hide

i see you talking just when i came by
do you mind if you'd give me a try
i'd be here, sitting next to you
i'll be here, even without a clue
you can gather your thoughts
and tell me when you're ready to talk

don't you worry about having a friend
`coz i will be here listening as you share
speak out your mind, say what you mean
tell me, what you've been keeping inside
take me, let me be lost in reality

Alipin

naaalala mo pa nung tayo’y unang nagkita?
hindi inakalang ika’y makikilala
mundo ko at mundo mo’y sadyang pinagtagpo
nararamdama’y bakit hindi natin maitago

naaalala mo pa ba nung tayong dalawa pa?
minuminutong magkausap, oras ay hindi inaalala
mga pangarap, magkasabay nating binuo
alam mong ito’y hindi isang biro

naaalala mo pa ba tuwing tayo’y magkasama?
sabay na naglalakad at hawak kamay pa
araw man o gabi hindi natin napapansin
ang daan na malakaran tila ating inangkin

naaalala mo pa ba nung sinabi mong ako lang talaga?
ako’y di makapaniwala at sadyang nabahala
ika’y di nagsalita, walang kibo sa aking drama
kaya sagot sa tanong ko’y hindi na maikakaila

hindi ko maintindihan
iyong paliwanag akin namang pinakinggan
oras mong akin lang datirati
anung nangyari, ako sayo ngayo’y may kahati
masakit isipin, ika’y di matawag na akin
mahirap tanggapin, puso ko’y iyo pa ring alipin

ang mundo nating dalawa tila tuluyang pinaglayo
habang mga luha ay lubusang pinatutuyo
mga puso nati’y di na pinagtagpo
dahil na rin sa sugat na natamo

Wake up

try to fix yourself up
back to the girl you used to
it's a good thing for break up
just for the sake of getting through

last night's a trip to hell
it's like a sinking ticket for two
just for the moment you fell
for an attitude you can never compare

take a look of yesterday
but don't try to think of his name
do you wish for him to stay?
just after you call off the game

but hey! wake up!
look your best for a one time break up
you have to let things be
and feel the peace of being free

i see you're hurting
you've been crying
but you'll be fine
and be better in time

Broken dreams

i see you crying all along
listening to my favorite song
why are you missing me so bad
after you said that you’ve had enough

did i fail to recognize?
the picture you used to keep inside
is this true, is that really me
you’re looking forward to

it’s okay to look back
to a love story you used to have
a book close to perfection
in a long run of imperfection

it’s not about us now
the scene is heading to its end now
this is about you
and who you have become
so close your eyes
and bury this broken dreams alive

i’ve waited far too long
just to realize what could be wrong
solutions have lost its way
back to the promise we both did share

Pretension

you don’t have to ask me
just simply trust your senses
look at me, so you can see
is this what you want me to be?

do you still have the courage?
face me, don’t mind my limitations
well, you’d never know the real me
`coz i’ve broken my reflection

i’d never walk away
because i know, i can’t escape
your existence i cannot take
and this is what i can always fake

you wouldn’t realize
that you’re blinded by my pretension
you wouldn’t know the feeling
being in the shadow of my pretension

look inside my heart
see the place you used to occupy
i’ve stopped my tears from falling
just when i’ve run out of reasons to fight

Lihim na pagtingin

hindi malaman ang gagawin
sa tuwing nakikita kang nakatingin
iyo na bang napapansin
ang aking mga nakaw na tingin

ako’y puno ng kaba tuwing lalapit ka
natutulala naman pag kaharap ka na
ang mga nais iparating
tila hindi ko kayang sambitin

kung kaya ko lang tanggapin
ang iyong sagot sa aking pag amin
madali sana itong sabihin
ngunit hindi ko kayang gawin

hanggang dito na lang ba ako
mananatiling takot
sa nararamdaman para sayo
hanggang dito na lang ba ako
aasa na lang
sa lihim na pagtingin sayo

huwag mo sanang mapansin sa mga kilos ko
dahil hindi ko kayang marinig mula sayo
na siya at hindi ako ang pipiliin mo

**My friend asked me to make this poem for this girl.

You, your letter and lies

this is the place for you and me
let’s set things up close to reality
that some things are so called
as not meant to be

you’ve let your showpiece find her place
wide awake from all these fears
finding peace again, away from
your dim direction

once more, you wrote me a letter
full of lies, you can never fake
your lies, it eats up the best of what i sing
i’ve had enough, what you bring is only suffering

now, end this up
and verbalize your lies
i’m sick of you,
your letter and lies

Mata

nakapagtataka, bat ako’y sumasaya
sa tuwing nakikita ka
ninanais na makasama ka

sa sandaling masilayan ka
mundo ko’y nag iiba
tumitigil at nagsasaya

ang pagmasdan ka
ay ang tangi kong ligaya
araw ko’y iyong pinagaganda

ano bang meron ka
na di makita sa iba
nakakahumaling ang titigan ka
nahuhulog ako sayong mga mata
hinahanap hanap ka
pag sa paningin ko’y nawawala ka na

kailan ba kita makikilala?
makakausap at makakasama?
kailan ba? kailan kaya?

Failure means success

Biographers have written that Thomas Edison, the inventor of the light bulb, made over nine hundred light bulbs that didn’t work before he finally made one that did. Nine hundred times he went to all the trouble of making a light bulb, plugging it in, flipping the switch, and watching while nothing happened. People must have thought he was nuts, but he kept on trying. According to Edison, every time he made a light bulb that didn’t work, he merely found “one more way not to make a light bulb.” Eventually, by the process of elimination, he made a light bulb that produced light. As a result, he is known as one of the greatest inventors of all time.

Most of us don’t realize how many failures successful people endure before they achieve their purposes. We only hear about the one time they succeed. What made Edison great was his commitment to making a light bulb. He didn’t let his failures discourage him. He hung in there and kept trying, even though he kept goofing up. We all have our own goals or dreams in life that we need to face and need to be reached. As we go in this world, there would be trials or circumstances and even failures that will actually help us reach success. How? In living this life, we should always put in mind that success depends on how we look at it. If we look at it negatively, we’ll end up loosing everything we worked hard for; in short, we’ll turn out to be one of the world’s greatest losers of all time. But in the positive way, we’ll also be getting a positive result. Looking forward to the future keeps us going on with our lives. So, why do we need to let old mistakes or misfortunes hold us down? We shouldn’t be bothered or be discouraged by adversity. Instead, meet it as a challenge, learn from it, forgive yourself or others and move on. We should be empowered by the courage it takes us to overcome obstacles. Being interested in others and what they might teach may also contribute to one’s success. But do not look for yourself in the faces of others. As far as who you are and who you will become goes – the answer is always within yourself. Believe in yourself; follow your heart and your dreams. You, like everyone will make mistakes but so long as you are true to the strength within your heart, you can never go wrong.

             We just have to remember that the best commitment that will help us stay in track is the commitment of not giving up. Being committed doesn’t mean you are successful all the time. It means you hang in there, you keep on making mistakes. Like Edison, you learn from your mistakes one more way not to make it to the top.